Ease Separation Anxiety

In partnership with Aberdein Considine

The festive season, usually synonymous with joy, can also unveil cracks in relationships. 

As couples gather, stress and expectations rise. Financial strains, unmet hopes, and reflection on the year's journey can lead some to make the tough choice of separation, revealing why this season can become a breaking point for many. 

Leonie Burke is a Partner in the Family Law team at Aberdein Considine – here she reveals her recommendations on how to make the process of separation as healthy and amicable as possible. ‘Separation can be a challenging process, but there are steps you can take to try to reduce conflict, stress and legal fees. These tips can help your family in making a smoother transition to a two-household arrangement’.

Take advice early
Speak to a specialist family lawyer as soon as possible, ideally before separating, to give you a clear understanding of your legal rights and obligations.  

Look after your physical and mental health
Separation can cause anxiety and distress. Consider seeking counselling to help you navigate this challenging time.

Don’t make rash decisions
There can be perceived pressure to resolve things quickly, often driven by concerns about future financial stability. Your lawyer will help prioritise immediate concerns, including managing household bills and providing financial support for children. 

Avoid making significant changes to your living situation, disposing of assets, or signing legal documents without seeking legal advice. Allow yourself breathing space to contemplate your family's long-term needs and interests.

Gather information
Your lawyer will need information about your finances so they can advise on the fairest solution. So, if you can, try to gather as much information as possible. Your lawyer can help you obtain what’s needed, including financial advice if required.
The decisions taken on separation will have a lasting impact, so it’s important to make informed decisions after careful consideration with your lawyer.

Communicate and prioritise the children
Remaining courteous and communicating well with your partner are vital for effective co-parenting. Don’t badmouth your partner or make negative comments on social media. Avoid sending inflammatory messages, which may be used against you, and consider changing passwords on email and other accounts, especially on shared devices. 
Separation can be traumatic and confusing for children, so prioritise their welfare and shield them from conflict. They should have the support of both parents and any relevant professionals. Your lawyer can advise on resources available for parents and children.

Choose the right approach for you
Your lawyer will explain the available options, including Collaborative Family Law, Mediation, Arbitration and traditional negotiation. Family law specialists are committed to problem solving and constructive dispute resolution. Choosing the approach that works best for you can lead to a far better outcome for you and your family.

For a confidential chat, contact the team on 0333 0044 333, ask@acandco.com or visit acandco.com